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[Home](/) - [Blog](/blog) - Finding a Couples Therapist: How to Start [Back to Blog](/blog) # Finding a Couples Therapist: How to Start July 28, 2026 ![couple sitting on a sofa talking to someone](https://rxvhnvwmfwrneowddnji.supabase.co/storage/v1/render/image/public/blog-images/c39458e0-c7d3-44e9-b2df-48b4c6f92663/couple-on-sofa-in-therapy-room-4y5bq7.jpg?width=1200&resize=contain&quality=80) It’s often late at night, isn’t it? The house is quiet, you’re alone with your thoughts, and your phone is in your hand. You type the words you’ve been thinking about for weeks, maybe months: 'couples therapy near me'. It’s a search that carries so much weight. It’s part hope, part fear, and part exhaustion from things being the way they are. A silent admission that something has to change. From what I've seen working with couples across Surrey, taking this first step is often the hardest part. The decision to look for help is loaded with questions, worries, and uncertainty for both of you. #### The Conversation Before the Counselling For many, the first hurdle is simply broaching the subject with their partner. One of you might be ready, while the other is hesitant, defensive, or just plain sceptical. Perhaps you’ve tried to raise it, only for it to be brushed off or turn into another argument. It’s a delicate conversation. The person suggesting it might worry they’ll be seen as the one ‘giving up’, while the other might feel blamed or ambushed. It’s rarely that simple. Hesitation isn't always a sign of not caring. Sometimes it's fear. Fear of being judged, fear of uncovering problems that can’t be fixed, or just a deep-seated scepticism about whether talking to a stranger can really help. #### What Should You Look For in a Therapist? So, you’ve both agreed to look. The search results appear, and now what? It becomes about more than just proximity; you’re now finding a [couples therapist](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/services/couples-therapy) you can both trust. The single most important factor is the ‘fit’. Do you both feel comfortable with this person? A good therapist doesn’t take sides. Their role is to be on the side of the relationship, helping you both understand what’s happening and giving you the tools to communicate better. They should be able to create a calm, structured environment where you can both speak and, crucially, feel heard. This is especially important when one or both of you feels unappreciated, a problem we explore in our article about what happens when your partner doesn't see all you do. In your initial research for [relationship counselling in Surrey](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/blog/relationship-counselling-surrey), look for a therapist or service that is transparent about their approach, their fees, and how they work. You should get a clear sense of their professionalism and experience from their website. #### Answering the Worries You Both Have It’s completely normal to have reservations. Let’s address a few of the most common ones I hear from couples in Guildford, Woking, and across the county. ##### “Will the therapist make us break up?” The goal of counselling is not to steer you towards a particular outcome. It is to bring clarity. Sometimes, that clarity leads couples to realise they want different things. But more often, it helps them understand the patterns they’re stuck in and gives them a way to break free. It's about helping you work out if you can get back to how you were, or perhaps build something new and stronger. ##### “What if it’s all my fault?” [Relationship difficulties](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/problems) are rarely one person’s fault. They are usually the result of a dynamic that has built up over time, often fuelled by unspoken resentment. A therapist isn’t there to assign blame but to help you both see the roles you play in the cycle and how to change the steps to that familiar dance. ##### “Is it just for relationships in crisis?” Absolutely not. Many couples come to counselling to improve a good relationship or to address a recurring issue before it becomes a crisis. Think of it as preventative maintenance. It’s a space to finally talk about the emotional distance that has crept in before it becomes a chasm. ##### “What actually happens in a session?” [It’s not as mysterious](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/blog/what-happens-in-couples-counselling) as you might think. A session is essentially a structured, facilitated conversation. The therapist will help you stop talking \*at\* each other and start talking \*to\* each other. We slow things down, untangle the issues, and make sure each person has a chance to speak without interruption. #### The Practicalities of Couples Therapy in Surrey We believe that starting counselling should be as straightforward as possible. We offer [couples therapy across Surrey](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/services/couples-therapy), with options for both face-to-face sessions in locations like Cobham and Epsom, as well as online counselling via Zoom for your convenience. Crucially, sessions are booked one at a time. There's no pressure to sign up for a long block of appointments. You can see how the first session goes and decide together if you want to book another. Our fee is £80 per couple for a full hour session. This transparency is important to us, as it means you know exactly where you stand from the beginning. #### Ready to Take the Next Step? If you're reading this, you’ve already done the hard part by acknowledging that you want things to be different. You’re looking for a way to feel like a team again. Booking a first session can be a positive, proactive step toward understanding where you both are. It isn’t a sign of failure; it’s a sign of commitment to the future of your relationship. If you would like to book an initial session with us, please [contact us by phone or email](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/contact). We will get back to you to arrange a time that works for you both. It’s just a single appointment, a chance to talk and see how we can help. Written by Sian Jones, Founder of Relationship Counselling Surrey. Sian has extensive experience helping couples improve communication, rebuild emotional connection and strengthen their relationships. 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