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[Home](/) - [Blog](/blog) - Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships [Back to Blog](/blog) # Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships March 10, 2026 ![Silhouette of man in crown holding umbrella over himself while woman stands in rain.](https://rxvhnvwmfwrneowddnji.supabase.co/storage/v1/render/image/public/blog-images/imported/narcissistic-abuse-in-relationships.jpg?width=1200&resize=contain&quality=80) Narcissistic abuse in relationships refers to a pattern of manipulative and emotionally harmful behaviors perpetrated by someone with narcissistic traits. It can occur in various types of relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, family relationships, or even professional connections. Narcissistic abuse typically involves the following elements: Manipulation: Narcissists often manipulate others to maintain control over them. This manipulation can be subtle or overt and may involve gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or other tactics to distort the victim’s perception of reality. **Emotional Abuse:** Narcissists frequently engage in [emotional abuse](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/blog/emotional-neglect-relationship-counselling), such as belittling, demeaning, criticising, or insulting their partners. They may also use silent treatment or withdrawal of affection as a means of control. **Lack of Empathy:** Narcissists often lack empathy and have difficulty understanding or caring about the feelings and needs of others. They may dismiss or invalidate their partner’s emotions and experiences. **Exploitation:** Narcissists may exploit others for their own gain, whether it’s financial, emotional, or social. They often take advantage of their partner’s kindness, generosity, or resources without giving much in return. **Idealisation and Devaluation:** In the early stages of the relationship, a narcissist may idealise their partner,. Showering them with love, attention, and compliments. However, as the [relationship progresses](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/blog/how-to-build-a-healthy-relationship), they may devalue and demean their partner, leading to a cycle of emotional highs and lows. **Isolation:** Narcissists may isolate their partners from friends and family, making it harder for the victim to seek support or validation from others. [Find a qualified therapist and book your first session](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/find-your-therapist) whenever you feel ready. ##### Narcissism continued… **Control:** Narcissists seek to maintain [control over their partners](https://relationshipcounsellingsurrey.co.uk/blog/couple-therapy-relationship-counselling-marriage-counselling-relationship-help). This control can be exerted through various means, including financial control, monitoring activities, or dictating what the victim can or cannot do. **Gaslighting:** Narcissists often use gaslighting techniques to make their partners doubt their own perceptions, memories, and sanity. This manipulation tactic can be particularly damaging to the victim’s self-esteem and mental well-being. It’s important to note that narcissistic abuse can have severe and long-lasting effects on the victim, leading to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). If you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse, it’s crucial to seek help from a mental health professional or a support network to break free from the cycle of abuse and begin the healing process. The following link is extremely powerful. [Her Mind Speaks](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJE1PqXG/) If you feel you might be a vicim of narcissistic abuse in your relationship and would like some professional help. Contact us here **Book Now** ##### Important If you are in physical danger or need help more urgently. Contact the ‘National Refuge Aid Helpline’ on telephone number – 0808 2000 247 or on the link below. [National Aid Helpline](https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/) Ready to talk about narcissistic abuse in relationships? Browse qualified, vetted therapists, see real-time availability, and book your first session in minutes — online or in-person. 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