Marriage Counselling Cobham
Hello, I’m Shireen, a dedicated couples counsellor with a background in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). I’m a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy), and I feel privileged to support couples in moving beyond conflict, emotional distance and unhelpful patterns of communication.
I use CBT-informed tools and techniques to help couples understand how their thoughts, emotions, and behaviours impact the dynamics of their relationship. Together, we’ll identify what’s keeping you stuck, whether that’s recurring arguments, trust issues, or emotional disconnection – and begin building healthier, more connected ways of relating.
My approach to marriage counselling is compassionate, collaborative and goal-focused. I’m not here just to explore problems, I’m here to help you create meaningful, lasting change in your relationship.
Qualifications
Postgraduate Certificate in Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling – New School of Existential Psychotherapy, London (including a dedicated term in CBT theory and practice)
Level 4 Diploma in Integrative Psychodynamic and Existential Therapy
Background & Experience
Before becoming a therapist, I worked in high-pressure environments including political organisations, the Palace of Westminster, advertising agencies and trade unions. While it might seem an unusual path into counselling, these roles gave me a deep understanding of people’s diverse needs and how relationships function in complex settings.
Over time, I realised my true calling was supporting people on a more personal, meaningful level. That insight led me to retrain in psychotherapy and counselling, and I’ve never looked back.
Today, I bring warmth, emotional intelligence and real-world insight into every session, creating a supportive space where you can better understand each other and themselves.
Types of Therapy Offered
- Couple Therapy
- Marriage Counselling
- Existential Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Compassion-Focused Therapy
- Person-Centred Therapy
How I Can Help You
Couples counselling isn’t just about solving problems, it’s about helping you build a stronger, more connected partnership where both people feel heard, supported and emotionally safe.
Whether you’re navigating infidelity, parenting pressures, cultural differences or ongoing conflict, I’ll guide you with compassion and structure. Together, we’ll make sense of what’s happening between you and start working towards real, lasting change.
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Improve communication so you feel heard and understood
I’ll introduce simple, evidence-based tools to help you express your needs clearly and listen more openly to each other. We’ll explore common communication traps and practise new ways of speaking and responding that build connection instead of conflict.
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Reduce conflict and tension
We’ll look at what’s triggering arguments and why things escalate. I’ll help you both understand your emotional reactions and learn calming techniques so disagreements become more productive and less painful.
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Rebuild trust and emotional safety
If your relationship has been impacted by betrayal, secrecy or emotional distance, we’ll work gently and gradually to repair the rupture. I’ll support you in having honest conversations, setting clear boundaries, and rebuilding trust step by step.
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Break out of negative cycles and stuck dynamics
Many couples fall into patterns where the same problems keep resurfacing. We’ll work together to spot those cycles, understand what drives them, and replace them with more constructive ways of relating.
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Explore and challenge assumptions or limiting beliefs
Sometimes, hidden beliefs about ourselves or our partner can keep us stuck. I’ll help you bring these into the open, reflect on where they come from, and shift the narrative so it better supports your relationship.
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Develop healthier, more supportive ways of relating
We’ll explore what each of you needs to feel secure, loved and valued. I’ll guide you in creating new habits of connection, from the way you respond during conflict, to the way you show appreciation and care in everyday life.
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Strengthen emotional connection and intimacy
I’ll help you reconnect emotionally, rebuild your bond and explore ways to bring back warmth, closeness and affection – even if it’s been missing for a while.
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Build resilience as a couple when times are tough
Whether you’re dealing with external stressors like work, family or health, or internal issues like drifting apart, I’ll support you in developing tools and perspectives that help you navigate challenges together, not against each other.
You don’t need to have it all figured out before starting therapy, just a willingness to explore, reflect and take small steps forward. I’ll be with you every step of the way.
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