How to Find a Couples Counsellor in Surrey

Finding a couples counsellor can feel daunting when you are already dealing with stress or uncertainty in your relationship. Many couples do not know where to begin, what to look for, or how to compare therapists. The reassuring news is that you do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out for help. You only need a starting point and a sense of what matters most to you both.

Surrey has a wide range of qualified relationship therapists, so you have plenty of choice. This guide will help you understand what to look for, what questions to ask, and how to choose someone who feels like a good fit for your relationship.

1. Look for a therapist who specialises in relationship counselling

Couples work is a distinct form of therapy and requires specific training beyond general counselling. A specialist couples therapist understands patterns such as emotional distance, communication breakdowns, resentment cycles, and trust issues.

Look for someone who is:

a qualified counsellor or psychotherapist
trained specifically in couples or relationship work
experienced in supporting couples with similar challenges

A therapist with this background will help you make meaningful progress more easily and safely.

You can read about our relationship therapists across Surrey here:
Our Surrey relationship therapists.

2. Decide whether you prefer face to face or online sessions

Both options are equally effective, so the choice depends on what feels right for you.

In Surrey, couples can choose:

Face to face sessions at private practices across towns such as Guildford, Woking, Cobham, Epsom and Farnham
Online sessions via Zoom, offering greater flexibility if schedules or travel are difficult

If you want to explore which Surrey locations are closest to you, you can view all practice locations here:
Surrey counselling locations.

3. Check ongoing weekly availability

When you decide to start therapy, you do not want to wait weeks for a session. Look for a counsellor who has consistent weekly availability, not just a one off slot.

This helps you build momentum and gives your relationship a steady space to talk things through.

You can check availability and book directly here:
Book a couples counselling appointment.

4. Read their therapist profile to understand their approach

Each therapist brings a slightly different style and way of working. You do not need to know lots of technical models. Instead, look for qualities such as:

warmth and calmness
experience with couples in conflict
a balanced, non judgemental approach
clarity about how they support both partners
the ability to help you understand relationship patterns

A good therapist will help both partners feel heard and valued.

You can view therapist profiles here:
Meet our Surrey therapists.

5. Check the practical details

A few small practical points can help you feel more confident about starting therapy:

fees
ease of booking
whether you prefer a male or female therapist
parking and location convenience
session format (face to face or online)
regular weekly slots
evening or weekend availability

You can find full session information and booking details here:
Session prices and booking in Surrey.

6. Trust how you feel in the first session

Your first session is a chance to get a sense of the therapist and how they support you. You are not committing to long term therapy. Most couples know within a session or two whether the fit feels right.

You should both feel:

listened to
comfortable speaking openly
not blamed
supported as individuals and as a couple
hopeful about change

The right therapist helps you work together, not against each other.

7. How Relationship Counselling Surrey can help

We have experienced relationship therapists across Surrey, including:

Guildford
Woking
Cobham
Epsom
Farnham
Reigate
Redhill

You can explore all practice locations here:
See all Surrey locations.

Our therapists support couples with:

communication problems
repeated conflict
trust issues
emotional distance
infidelity
stress affecting the relationship

Sessions are £80 per couple for a full hour, and you can choose your therapist, read their profile, and book online.

Book an appointment here:
Book couples counselling in Surrey.

8. Ready to begin?

If you are unsure where to start, we can help you choose a therapist who feels right for both of you. Whether you prefer face to face sessions in Surrey or online therapy, we will guide you through the process clearly and kindly.

Taking the first step can feel daunting, but the support afterwards can make a real difference.

If you would like to book a couples counsellor in Surrey, please contact us today.

If you want to check a therapist’s professional membership, you can look them up on the BACP Register.

https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Register/

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Why use us?

Experienced

Successfully enabled hundreds of couples to relate more effectively and achieve their goals
Skilled in helping couples open up and communicate effectively
97% of customers rebook after their first session.

Qualified

BSC (hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
BACP - British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy
PGCert Psychotherapy

Professional

We will help you understand what is going on in your relationship, no matter what has happened or what is going on.
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located across the whole of surrey.

Convenient Locations

Guildford
Bexley
Caterham
Bromley
Canterbury
Dartford
Farnham
Herne Bay
Surbiton
Rochester
Redhill
Tonbridge
Woking

Reviews

Dear Relationship Counselling Surrey I can't thank you enough for all your help during our sessions. You have given me the tools and skills I need to move forward in a positive way. I particularly liked the way you had saved notes from my first contact for counselling so that at the end we could re-cap and ensure all my issues had been worked through. What was really interesting is the way you helped me to work through my problems rather than just suggesting solutions to me. I enjoyed my "eureka" moments where suddenly a penny would drop and I would see something from a completely different perspective. Thanking you so much,

Neana
"Kate Stewart helped us at a time when we were approaching rock bottom in our relationship. We both found her to be friendly, very approachable and reassuring. She helped us to communicate at a much deeper level and to understand the other's point of view. We would thoroughly recommend Kate to any couple going through relationship difficulties"

EP & WP
"Katrina is amazing! With her help my husband and I are back ‘on track’. Katrina reassured us that both of our feelings count and because of this Katrian gained our trust instantly. She quickly helped us to identify what could be causing our issues and how we can use simple techniques and solutions to resolve/manage/accept them. We are still using those tips now and we still remind each other when we need to of the wonderful guidance Katrina gave so that we can continue to benefit from it whenever we need to"

Jacqueline B
"I have recently been helped by Helen Lamming and through my sessions I can honestly say I have felt improvement. She helped create a open and friendly platform in which we could discuss the relevant topics that helped ease my overall stress and anxiety. I would recommend Helen very highly and I would not hesitate to book further sessions if I felt the need. I would also recommend the online sessions and found them far less stressful that adding extra travel to my day.

Nik Edwards
"Andy gave us what we needed and at a pace we could manage. He joined with us in our exploration so the Julie-and- I duo became a trio with And; working together to resolve our issues. After each session we felt empowered to take away what we had discussed so that we may consider this in greater depth in our own time. He was never the passive wall or mirror (which would have irritated and blocked our learning) but an active participant in our striving to move forward .

Clive and Julie
Trish Mayne
"Thank you for a really good session Trish. We were feeling really stuck for a time. You listened and helped pull us back into a place where we could think and makes things feel better. We are very glad we chose to turn to you for guidance. "

Anonymous
Elaine Brown
"Thank you so much for everything you have done to help the situation with our marriage. We have learnt a lot but still have a way to go but you have helped more than we can of expected"

J & P
"We didn’t think we would be sat here together having enjoyed a family Christmas, when this time last year we felt we were at the end. Thank You for helping us find a way forward that suited us, and for your knowledge and understanding. We now are looking forward rather than dreading the future"

Anonymous
"Although my wife was not comfortable discussing our marital problems with a counsellor herself, Trish really helped me understand how to approach the issues, and gave us a good foundation/plan to build upon. They say the first step is to talk about the problems, and talking with Trish really helped!. Was the first time (aged 48) I have had any kind of counselling, which filled me with fear, but within a couple of minutes of the Zoom meeting Trish put my mind at rest."

Anonymous
"Just to say Thank you for your help, it has been invaluable and it was wonderful confiding in someone so warm and non-judgemental. The sessions were priceless in how they improved our communication and overall relationship. The tools we've learnt will be invaluable taking froward"

H & S
"We found Sian to be such a huge help in our quest for improving our communication skills. Sian will teach you how to think about your behaviour and what it's linked to so you learn to understand yourself and your partner a whole lot better. This is an invaluable technique,. She is also warm & fun which really helps!:)"

Scott and Sue
"We weren't sure what to expect, or even if it would help. Best money we ever spent!" Trish helped us, as a couple and as individuals, and we have learnt some valuable tools we will continue to use. And we are happy to say, we now feel the strongest we ever have"

Anon – West Malling
"We saw Sian for some marriage counselling online and found that she has an amazing ability to explain back to you EXACTLY how you are feeling, both me and my husband just couldn't believe it! It was like she had experienced every single feeling we had at some point so she could really relate to it. At no point did she judge either of us such she just helped understand each other's perspectives and got us actually communicating properly again! Thank you!

Anonymous
"We felt having a space to talk in that was safe and supportive was really helpful. The sessions were very well managed and structured by Jolanta and there was an understanding and empathy with our situation which felt comforting. We were each allowed a decent time to talk and reflect" "Thank you Jolanta – you were very kind and understanding and we really appreciated the lack of judgement and desire to help us with your reflections and ideas"

Anonymous
"Relationship counselling with Judy was a positive experience for both of us. The initial questionnaire was a good way to get us to think deeply and try to identify issues we had and wanted to address" "Judy seemed to understand where each of us was coming from and tried to get us to see the other person's point of view"

Mr & Mrs Hakki
"The Irish" (ha ha ha!) cannot thank you enough for all you have done for us Stephanie. It's been a steep hill but we finally got there, we will never forget what you have done for us and all being well we won't be back!! :))"

Rosalyn and Patrick
Haslemere
After only 2 appointments with things started to get better and then continued to grow each session after that. With our new communication skills and understanding of each other I feel like we are back in love again! I would tell anyone not to be scared or embarrassed and it is worth every penny"

Anonymous
Woking
"My wife point blank refused to seek help for our problems with marriage counselling because she saw this as a failure she didn't want to admit to. Neither of us wanted to separate but we wanted to feel happy again. When I called Relationship Counselling Surrey to ask her advice they were so helpful! Although my wife was still hesitant to attend it's helped us greatly. We didn't even realised how stale things were and how mundane our lives had become. inspired us with new vigour and understanding and we are both happier now and actually looking forward to our retirement together rather than dreading it"

Mr and Mrs Cobhurn – Farnham
"It's been good and it's been bad..................... but knowing what we know now .... we should have done it years ago! Thank you thank you thank you!"

Elsa and Mark – one very happy couple!
"Highly recommend - I contacted Relationship Counselling Surrey for an appoinment w because I was concerned that my reaction to the small irritating things my partner was doing was getting out of hand. I was anxious, angry and upset on a regular basis. I tried to blame him for a while but I started to realise it was me and not him. I saw Sophie Hill for a few months, once a week, and began to understand why I was reacting the way I was. This understanding was half the battle, and was incredibly revealing. I learned not to let my hurt feelings turn to anger and frustration, and deal with them in a different way. I feel like my old self again now, I'm more in control of my emotions, and much happier in my relationship. Sophie was sympathetic, caring, open and I think genuinely happy for me when I started to feel better”

Mrs T Albany
"As you know Michelle I have tried very hard to get over my wife's affair. Unfortunately I haven't been unable to forgive and forget and now know I never will. Although the whole experience has hurt like hell, I couldn't have done it without you. You helped me through it by giving me time, patience and a different perspective. I know more about myself and relationships than I ever did before and I'm hoping one day I will see some good in what's happened. Hopefully this will help me in my next relationship"

Steve M
Rochester
"Having Rose help us talk through our problems helped us both see each others point of view and see things more clearly. Our marriage is much stronger now that it has been for years – thank you so much"

Byron & Claire – Woking
"We knew we needed to separate but wanted to do so amicably for the sake of our two children. Andrew made this possible by offering us the support through a very difficult time"

Tracey B & Tom
"Thank you for putting our marriage back on track!"

Mr & Mrs Donahu
"When my wife suggested that we should see a relationship counsellor but I thought it was a stupid idea and was very sceptical and cynical!. However, Allie made us both feel very relaxed from the outset and she never took sides in any of our conversations. Unfortunately we were not able to save our relationship but Allie helped us through the difficult process and made the separation so such much easier. I would recommend her to anyone who is having problems"

Anonymous
"Although my partner was reluctant to go to couples therapy our therapist put us both at ease straight away. I was surprised how he opened up and I was able to see things from his perspective for the first time. I know that he understands me more now and we are closer than ever"

Hayley and John
"I didn’t think there was any hope for our relationship as all we did was argue and shout at each other. We went to see Sian at relationship counselling Guildford and she was so patient and understanding and always saw things from both points of view. We are now at a stage where we can at least communicate without getting angry. We are still working on our relationship but now feel at least there is light at the end of the tunnel"

Paul & Sue
Folkestone, Surrey

Problems we can help you with

Jealousy and Suspicion
Stale Relationships
Relationship Break Up’s or Divorce
Pre-Marital/Pre-Living Together Counselling
The Impact of Pornography
Dealing with the Death of a Partner
Intimacy Problems
Infidelity or Affairs
'Stuck' Relationships

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