It’s very common for a relationship to go through phases where one or both partners lose interest in sex.
However, when a relationship loses it passion and intimacy long term, it can cause problems in your relationship. Perhaps your relationship lost its intimacy? Does your partner pull away from you perhaps and doesn’t want to cuddle let alone have sex? Do you feel confused, hurt and rejected because of it? Perhaps you are the one who doesn’t want to be intimate with your partner? Maybe you don’t feel loved or respected by your partner, so the last thing you feel like doing is being physically close?
Intimacy is not just about sex, it’s also about the closeness a couple share in a romantic relationship that is different to other relationships.
This can be simply down to the fact that sexual interest tends to ebb and flow over time. It’s not unusual for partners to have different sex drives at different stages of their relationship.
You may have reached a stage in your relationship where you love your Modafinil partner, but life together has just become predictable, stale and boring. Therefore, the intimacy has diminished or completely disappeared. This can leave either one or both of you feeling upset, hurt and rejected. If this is left too long it can become a difficult or embarrassing subject to broach.
The passion you may have once felt has gone and with intimacy on the decline, feelings of resentment can start to diminish.
This usually happens gradually over a period of time where perhaps over-familiarity or complacency has set in.
Sometimes it begins after you have children and your priorities change. Or it could be down to poor communication or too many arguments. Sometimes it can be a lack of physical attraction or needs not being met. Perhaps selfish behaviours may play a role or one or both of you just don’t feel appreciated any more.
Our relationship therapists will help you both talk through your feelings on the situation. We will encourage you to be honest, particularly if you are the one who is less interested in intimacy with your partner. It’s only fair that you partner understands what is behind it to ease any hurt
If you feel your partner is causing the problem, by being honest and putting them in the picture allows them the opportunity to change things if they can.
If you would like to come and talk to one of our relationship therapists about the problems with intimacy in your relationship contact us today. Request an appointment
We are an experienced team of professional relationship counsellors located throughout Surrey. Relationship Counselling Surrey will help you gain understanding of your partner’s perspective. This will enable you both to move forward in the direction you choose.
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